Our Final Easter Together

 On March 31, I did sing in the Chancel Choir and we had a little Orchestra accompanying us.

So we had to practice all together at 10:00 AM and since we have only one car, Pieter came along.

After Mass, around 1:00 PM we took some pictures and as always the case—Pieter already had hung his Jacket and released himself of his tie...!

Pieter looks rather frail, his weight went down.

Pieter captured me next to our Easter bouquet from sweet friend

Feeling very happy!

Wearing my Escada leather skirt and shoes.

There are not many clothes I can wear as at present I am only 96 pounds (43 kg) instead of my usual 116 (52 kg)...

Try to do my very best but it is not sticking!

During Mass at 11:30 AM I suddenly became very emotional and tears were welling up.

Did manage to not let them roll down my cheeks but twice I had to blow my nose...

Later I learned that exactly at that time my most favorite brother–in–law had passed away. He suffered from bone cancer.

My ESP was once again kicking in and I felt it.

On April 1, I wrote this letter to my Pieter...

Dublin, April 1, 2024

Dearest Pieter,

During Easter Mass, tears came to me when I saw you sitting there—how much longer? You get so out of breath from climbing stairs. It's frightening to think that you're slipping away like that. My Pieter, my rock and great help for the past year after accident.

Because of the enormous pain, I was certainly not the nicest conversation partner! My humor appeared to have dried up and the pain was unbearable. You felt powerless... But you kept me alive by feeding me what you prepared.

Suddenly the roles reversed! It hurts so much to see your elderly sweetheart struggling and I couldn't change it. Praying, a lot of praying for strength and to be able to spend some more time together. Cycling together if I can still manage that... At least I want to take care of the laundry again. You're already doing too much outside! In bed you breathe very difficult—frightening.

Both of us are still too often exhausted. Reading makes me calmer, but the pressure of many things causes stress. Glad we have the trust almost complete! Before it is too late, I want to tell you that I still love you dearly and am proud of you. I have emphasized that pride often enough in my blog! A rare great love and it hurts to have ended up in the rag basket like that. Neither of us wanted this! Someday we will be together again without physical discomfort—our souls. It's going to be hard to ever having to live without you... 

I will fight for our cats, but I want to be with you again as soon as possible!

Your eternally loving L.L.

Pieter has read this letter several times and he said one thing to me in regard to this:

You have exceptionally keen senses. Nothing escapes you and in terms of hearing you never miss anything. 

You have a memory like an elephant and you are as sharp as a tack—mentally acute. 

In combination with your other characteristics, that is very special and that's why I loved you so dearly...

Indeed a Blissful Relationship!

Bring Flowers of the Fairest to Mary in the month of May | mention by Father Seán of Dublin, Ireland and Pieter worshipped Mary whole his life...

Severe Weather with Bridge Destruction

 Just like to show you some images from early spring, or almost spring.

Sunday March 17, back from singing in the chancel choir.

Wearing my silk clover leaf Escada shirt with jacket.

Pieter wearing his cotton Irish cloverleaf sweater that we found in Dublin, Ireland. I've one as well.

My 94–year old caretaker is frail as he lost quite some weight by doing it all!

On February 12, my Mom's heavenly Birthday, we had severe weather and Pieter had to run both wet vacs to suck the water off the tiles in our Rose Suite.

The builder left tree trunks under the foundation and in 30+ year the wood has deteriorated and water manages to seep in...

Those wet vacs we have for sucking up the water are rather heavy when full. Pieter had to carry those full buckets out the door for letting it run downhill—away from the home.

It was so exhausting for my frail Pieter and I of course was not in the position to help him...

On March 9, we again had severe weather and while I was lay reader at Church, Pieter had to stay home for running the two wet vacs again.

We also found our bridge totally whacked out.

So much hard work by Pieter destroyed by nature—the force of water is incredible!

The pussy willow got crushed by it, so we lost that too. 

{Pussy Willow from Cuttings} ←click link

Another view and the pussy willow is seen knocked down

So sad seeing all the hours of hard work being destroyed...

On March 22, Pieter hung this new copper hummingbird feeder next to our kitchen bay window where we enjoy watching them drink.

Silver Clock and Oak Wall Clock repaired by Pieter

 From Mom & Dad's Estate in The Netherlands, also came home a silver clock that we once gifted Mom.

It was also a double photo frame...

Here it is — three parts

Sorry for the glare... Placed it on our Corian window sill in the kitchen near the Stephanotis Floribunda.

From the INTERNATIONAL SILVER COMPANY.

This did come home with me on June 17, 2022 when I took my final trip home from Limburg...

More items that were inside my suitcase: Mom & Dad's Trio of Crucifix with Corpus and Plaques with Red Copper Relief Statues ←click link

A very elegant set—except the clock had stopped working...

A better view—without glare...

Photo is from Pieter and me on September 5, 2002 

Pieter wearing his Burberry tuxedo and I my silk Escada rose gown and shoes with Majorica pearls.

Pieter always has been an excellent photographer!

In our office, our oak Meubelfabriek Oisterwijk clock also had stopped working...

But my Pieter did repair both of them!

Wrote him a thank–you letter on October 14 of 2022

English translation follows below...

Dublin, October 14, 2022

Dearest Pieter,

My rock–my intellectual–hardworking, down–to earth 'better half'!

We first saw each other 53 years ago. An inexplicable sympathy that grew into a pure—real love.

More than that: a fusion of two souls.

With the same feelings and drive – never lazy or too tired to do anything.

Committing yourself to many and only thinking of yourself at the end... And that even reluctantly!

A deep faith and with the help of God's blessing, has yielded us so many years.

Also, undoubtedly many souls of loved ones who have accompanied us on our path together.

You asked so little for yourself. Often even pro bono for so many.

We are convinced that God will one day settle it! Our behavior and that of those who scarred your heart. We can only pray and ask: Father, forgive them—they don't know what they are doing—just as Jesus said in all his sufferings.

You are still good to all the birds and animals on our estate. You feed and protect them.

Even more intimate with our cats—they don't hang onto you so much for nothing. Animals feel how you really are and love you unconditionally. How proud I am of you—as I walk through the garden, where your hard work is visible everywhere. And no less in the house—what you've done yourself!!!

There is no second Pieter.

Even the little oak clock that you recently managed to repair. And the silver clock! No, such an intelligent person, who still reads so much, is immortal—if it weren't for the body's inaction.

Thank goodness we captured your intellect in our book in 2020—for others especially. I was also able to highlight some things about our life together. You like to read it on your iPadPro and enjoy it. Makes me feel good and especially because I know there was never time for it before. Always doing a mega job or often driving someone else around and proudly showing our new homeland.

All those memories will remain—that is my anchor when you leave me behind to receive the final reward for your soul. I know you'll still be with me until I get to follow too.

Thank you for so much real love and see you later!

L.L.

L.L. is Lieve Lieverd or Dear Sweetheart

Related links:

modern mushroom growing 2020 harvesting | Pieter's intellect captured in book...

Niagara Falls with Sister Diny | one of the road trips made with family and friends

under labels below my blog, scroll to Mega Task and see the many projects Pieter accomplished

My Estonian Socks with ROSES

 Already for two years I had this pair of hand knitted Estonian woolen socks with ROSES

But they did not fit in ANY of my shoes...

Got me some bone colored Crocs in a size 9 and that works perfect!

Knew Mieke, from the blog Gebreide Sjaals in The Netherlands.

Did have her knit a beautiful lace knitted scarf in black, for our adopted daughter Liz in Rotterdam, The Netherlands.

Never got any photo of it however...

Dikke wollen kniekousen winter 21/2022 ←click link and at the very top you also find knitted scarfs.

All hand knitted in Estonia and they truly are gorgeous!

Pieter took this detail from my leg...

One can only admire such incredible work!

Wearing my Escada skirt (pleated in the back) with my roses socks and cashmere sweater.

Bare legs as I was having my medical pedicure at Georgia Podology Services in Lithonia, GA near Atlanta.

Next day, wearing my Wolford pantyhose under my knee socks with roses. 

This was at the Hyatt House Atlanta/Cobb Galleria.

Inside our room...

Do you like ROSES and warm woolen socks?

Milestone Reached

November 10, 1983...

Well, October 2023 was my worst month with October 10, being only 40 kg or 88 US pounds...

Determined to GAIN weight + strength—I've managed to add 10% to that!

40 kg... 

On November 9, best friend Ellie and family from The Netherlands sent us these lovely flowers...

On Friday November 10, we gathered with friends (23 in total, including us) around the table at Ristorante da Maria ←click link.

This was our THANK YOU for all the help, driving me, food brought, laundry done, cleaning, praying or whatever.

AND it was also the day that we had our 40th Wedding Anniversary... See first photo!

We did not tell that to our friends, but I announced it after the prayer was said by a dear friend.

So grateful!

The waiter made this photo but we FORGOT to have one of Pieter and me together...

Pieter is on the left in the back and me at the head of the table.

Lady Chef Maria prepared us a delicious 5–course dinner and each guest had selected their Entrée of choice.

Me in my wool Escada suit visiting with friends... FIRST time I wore block heels and also earrings and rings... 

Rings would still fall off one month ago!

Pieter took this...

That's my little purse on the table, had no space on chair as I still use a pillow for my back. 

Me visiting with friends in–between courses...

Pieter made those photos, including from his salmon with shrimps... We both opted for fish.

All enjoyed their dinner and we felt very blessed for being alive and having reached this milestone!

Prayers do get answered!!!

Related link:

Our Contract for Life | previous post by me with photos that I got from Mom & Dad's estate — new to us!

Niagara Falls with Sister Diny

 Since my sister Diny would be staying with us for a full month, together with her significant other, we had planned a trip to the Niagara Falls in Canada.

What a sight from our room 2329 at the Marriott

Niagara Falls with Rainbow... on September 20, 2007

A different view and as you can see, we were very lucky with the weather!

Yes, via Internet I'd managed to get us a room with the Niagara Falls view on their TOP floor 23!

Lunch at the restaurant of Marriott

overlooking the Falls

Joop, me and sister Diny

Wearing my favorite silk jacket from Escada...

Feeling happy for having reached our destination...

What a perfect day!

Diny with Pieter

It was quite a trip for both of us!

From Dublin, Georgia via Augusta, Charlotte North Caroline where we ate lunch at a Bob Evans, Dobson North Caroline to gas up, via the Blue Ridge Parkway at Fancy Gap North Carolina. We went to Hyatt Place in Roanoke Virginia  for our first night.

Next day, Pieter drives first and then we let Diny drive into Gettysburg, Pennsylvania—a historic moment for Joop. By 18:00 we leave the museum and shops at Gettysburg after an ice cream and beer for Joop at a terrace. A long ride of 310 km for me in heavy traffic to Morristown in New Jersey where we spent the night at the Hyatt Summerfield Suites. 

Next day we went to the Woodbury Commons Premium Outlet.

Then Pieter drives the first stretch towards the Niagara Falls and at Whitney Point, New York he gassed up and I do the rest.

Next day we stayed at the Hyatt Summerfield Suites in East Norristown, Pennsylvania for two nights.

We did go to the Campbell's Headquarters in New Jersey and stocked up on our favorite Godiva dark chocolate with raspberries. 

Over the Ben Franklin Bridge I drove them to Shillington, Pennsylvania where we used to live and we visited antique stores in Adamstown.

Next day we went to Hyatt Summerfield Suites in Charlotte, North Carolina after a stop at Replacements Ltd. 

Home next day... For our Infiniti FX35 we accumulated 4,896 km with 520 liters gas at $ 416

From my hometown of Horst, The Netherlands that would be the equivalent of traveling to Kiev in the Ukraine.

Or from Horst, Netherlands all the way south to Madrid in Spain.

We sure did go the extra mile!

But we found this in our guest book for an entire month of hosting them...

~

While visiting my Uncle Louis in Broken Hill, NSW/Australia he discussed the vastness of their country and ours.

He too had to pick up relatives from the airport—the big one long distance, not their local airport where I flew in from Melbourne on a weekend while working there.

My aunt Nelly with her husband came to Australia for two months and Uncle Louis toured 6,000 km with them...

That sure did top off our mileage but he wanted to share that as there is so much difference between these continents.

Related links:

6th NAMC and Niagara Falls | previous post by me

Visiting Uncle Louis in the Australian Outback of Broken Hill, NSW | previous post by me